We all need to get off the couch and out of that comfy chair! The good news is that there’s lots to do to encourage your kids to expand their interests by promoting the life skill of Making Connections.
Patricia Kuhl, a scientist at the University of Washington, notes:
“As I’ve watched my own child grow, there are various things that light her up. As parents and caretakers of a whole generation of kids, we have to be tuned into the engagement process.”
is at the heart of learning - figuring out what’s the same and what’s different - and sorting these things into categories. Making unusual connections is at the core of creativity. In a world where people can “Google” information, people who can see connections are able to go beyond knowing information to using this information well.
Tips to build this skill:
Support your children to make new connections based on their interests.
Karen Wynn of Yale University finds that parents and caregivers support learning on the deepest level when they tap into children’s enthusiasm, and build on it. What kinds of television and video games do your children like? Rather than fight against their interests, look for opportunities to expand your children’s interests beyond TV and video games.
- Do your kids prefer to play one-on-one or in a large group? Do they like games and shows with lots of activity, or do they prefer things to be more quiet and focused?Look for new activities that fit each child’s personality.
- Introduce books about the topics in their games and shows. Are they interested in superheroes or aliens from outer space? Take a trip to the library and look for fiction and nonfiction books about the planets or heroes from the past. Encourage them to look at the similarities and differences between what they find in the books and what they’ve seen in their shows and games
Limit time and get active.
The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that parents try to limit their children’s screen time—TV, video games and computer time—to no more than two hours per day.
- Give your kids some time for playing video games and watching television. You want them to feel excited to explore new things, instead of just pressured to give up something they enjoy.
- Make sure the games and shows the children watch are of a good quality.Visit Common Sense Media https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ for media recommendations that will help your child learn in fun and exciting ways.
- In addition to screen time, encourage physical activities every day, like playing ball, exercising, running games, etc. One problem with screen time is that children are sitting, which needs to be balanced with active play.
Play other kinds of games that encourage Making Connections.
Let’s say that your children already love to play games. Try introducing other kinds of games that encourage them to manage their attention and behavior to follow the game rules. And play with your kids when you have time! When you join in their play, you support your children’s exploration of new ideas and experiences and have fun together.
- Start a family game night with games that involve counting, dice and spinners. Also try card games, word games and memory games. They’re all fun ways for your kids to practice matching numbers, letters and colors while interacting with others, and to use critical thinking skills.
- Play “Imagine If…” games. Ask them questions like: “If you could have any kind of job in the world, what would it be?” or “What would you ask for if you had three wishes?”Share your answers with your children, too. These discussions can inspire new ideas and help you see what they’re thinking.
Larry Schweinhart, who recently retired from the HighScope Educational ResearchFoundation, talks about the importance of having children take increasing responsibility for their own learning:
“The reason we want children to be involved as initiators is because it works better for their education and, in fact, makes them better citizens in the long run. The basic cornerstone of goal-setting is children making plans, then carrying out the plans, and then getting back together and reviewing the plans, under the guidance of the adult.”
Involve your children in setting goals and achieving them.
To avoid the daily battles, use a problem-solving process to set goals with your children.Have a discussion about the issue, then work together to come up with strategies for dealing with it.
- Address the dilemma with your children. Say something like: “I feel like we fight everyday about the amount of time you spend playing video games or watching TV. I try to get you to do something else, and we end up yelling at each other. Playing video games and watching TV can be fun, but what other ideas can you come up with for fun things to do?”
- Listen to what your kids suggest and share some of your own ideas. Encourage them to consider all of the different points of view. For example, how will these solutions affect you, your children or other family members? One idea is to set aside a specific time to “unplug” as a family. Shut off the computer, don’t answer the phone and turnoff the television. Use this time to play games, tell stories or read books.
- After choosing a solution, try it out. Come back together to talk about it with your children. Encourage them to take a step back and consider what’s working and what isn’t. Try something else if the first solution isn’t working. Part of solving problems is making mistakes and trying lots of different things to find what works, rather than getting discouraged.
Recruit your children’s friends and other family members.
Sometimes another person engaged in and passionate about an activity is the best motivation for someone else to join in. Ask the important people in your and your children’s lives to invite your children to share in favorite hobbies and experiences.
Mitch Resnick of MIT thinks that the ability to think creatively is fundamental to success.
I think that the ability to think and act creatively will be the key distinguishing quality that will allow people to succeed and be satisfied in their lives.
Encourage creativity and expression.
Making new connections is at the core of creativity. Give your children opportunities to explore different kinds of creative experiences like painting, drawing, writing and telling stories, singing, dancing and playing music. These activities can expose your children to new worlds of possibility.
- Suggest that they write stories like the stories they like on television. They can put on a play and pretend that it is a show or even use your smartphone to film something that could be on TV.
- Have your children make up a game that could become a computer game.